It’s a question conscious men and curious women will have asked themselves over time. At heart we are interested in the lives of others and although we know we share much as people, it’s natural to constantly wonder whether others think differently from ourselves. In a brief personal essay, Eve Hall – writer of 35 years standing, children's author, poet and current resident of Atlanta, GA - attempts to address a key contemporary and classical question.

What Women Want?

The majority of women want and need the same things as men. We want:

a happy marriage, a loving family, the respect of others and peace in the world. We are not hard to please.

We want love, unconditionally.
We don´t want to play games.
We want men to step up to the plate and take care of their responsibilities.
We don´t ask for much, just what is due us.

Some of us want courage. We are in abusive relationships and we need the guts to get out of them. We are scared to experience living on our own, without realising that we are alone anyway; carrying the load all by ourselves.

We want positive people around us. People, who will build us up, not tear us down.

We want a shoulder to cry on, someone we can simply snuggle up to at night without obligation. In contradiction, some women want a gentleman and a bad boy, all-in-one.

We like the prospect of a man taking the lead in family matters, taking care to check on our opinions before taking key decisions.

We want to see our men cry, there is no shame in that. We want men to stop trying to find a wife who’s like their mom (it’d be better to, ‘stay with your momma’, if you can’t live without her).

If we make mistakes, we want to be forgiven, just like we would be willing to forgive. We are not perfect and we don´t pretend to be. We want to be heard, we want a listening ear (though, you don´t have to agree with what we say).

We want a man that wants to work and a man who doesn’t mind if we want to work. A man who enjoys spending time with his family.

We want a man who doesn´t mind sharing the household duties. We want men who are prepared to change their baby’s diper.

We want to be treated like the queens that we are. We want candlelit dinners, surprises and gifts. We want to hear those ‘three little words’, better still we would rather you showed us the love you felt; that´s worth much more than you telling us.

Those three little words have been used and abused so much. They have been used to take and not give, have resulted in unwanted pregnancies, have stood behind domestic abuse…and a list that goes on and on.

We also need to realize what we don’t need from men, and what MEN need from US! Once we realize this, we will WANT less.


© Eve Hall, 2008 (all rights reserved)
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